It is important to have realistic expectations of what can be accomplished when you hire a counsellor. Clearly expressing your overall goal and wishes is critical for you to feel the money and time was worthwhile. In your initial conversation, your needs and a plan will be covered to avoid dissatisfaction with the service you have hired. Therefore, keep in mind that a counsellor cannot….

1. Create instantaneous change. It likely took years to create the habits and patterns that brought you to call a counsellor. Be realistic and patient with yourself in rebuilding a better life.

2. Undo past hurts or painful events. A good therapist knows how to integrate and release past hurts so that you do not continue to get blocked or sabotaged by your past.

3. Change other people in your life

4. Or tell you how to change other people.

Let’s face it. No one asks for help when they are having a great day or week or month. And no one reaches out before they have tried everything they can think of to change the situation or how they are feeling. Even though the stigma of making a wellness appointment reduces, it still takes strength and humility to dial the number or search online. As in most changes, the first step is usually the hardest and most important. Congratulations. You are on your way to a happier and more productive life.

Yours in living and loss, Brenda