In the midst of heartache and despair, grief can unexpectedly become a powerful catalyst for personal growth and transformation. As a grief counselor and transformational coach, I have witnessed firsthand the remarkable resilience that individuals can exhibit in the face of loss.

Dealing with grief can be an overwhelming and painful experience. It is a journey that affects each person differently, making it essential to find effective coping strategies. While distraction may seem counterintuitive when it comes to grieving, it can actually serve as a valuable tool for managing your emotions. In this article, we will explore how to use distraction to help manage your grief.

Why does grief and anxiety go together? Since anxiety is a stress response and grief is certainly a stress, it makes sense that they can go together. Your loss may be recent or many years ago, but anxiety can become an expression of grief that you may not realize.

Year 2 of grief is often called the “lonely year”. Many people think that once surviving the first year, and yes, it does feel like you are just hanging by your fingernails, the rest will be easy. Often I hear “I feel like I’m starting all over again” .You aren’t. This is a good time to rejoin a support group or a grief retreat.

How long does grief last? Will I always feel out of control? What is the normal stages of grief?

During the first year, there will begin to be spaces between acute grief and then a special day or holiday looms in the future and we get dragged or pushed down the grief pit again. Each of these markers represents a general overview and carries with it the challenges of the initial year.

Everything reminds me of my loss. Yes, that’s the grief pain of secondary losses caused by the death, divorce, break up. It’s the subtle little events of everyday life that repeatedly pokes and pushes triggers of the emotional loss. Secondary losses are the changes or absence of routines, conversations, or experiences once my person (or pet) is there no longer. The loss is felt again and again. It feels like the grief is sneaking up and blindsiding me all the time, especially in those first months and year.