We often think of grief only in terms of death. But what about the loss that’s steeped in separation, absence, and invisible walls? The incarceration of someone close — whether a family member, partner, or friend — can stir a grief as real and deep as any other. It’s a non-death loss that deserves acknowledgment, care, and compassion.

Survivor guilt is a powerful and debilitating emotion that often haunts those left behind after a suicide. It stems from the belief that somehow, you could have prevented the tragedy, or that you bear some responsibility for the loss. This guilt can manifest in various ways, such as feeling responsible for not having seen any signs or not having intervened in time. In reality, suicidal individuals often hide their pain well, making it nearly impossible for friends and family to recognize the depth of their suffering.

Suicide, a profoundly tragic and deeply perplexing act, leaves in its wake a trail of heartache that defies understanding. Within the shock of this loss, survivors frantically search for the understanding how their loved one came to this decision. Today I want to offer a guiding hand to those who are grappling with the loss of a loved one to suicide.

Losing a pet is a valid form of loss and grief. It is often explained that a pet becomes a member of the family so no wonder its absence is felt deeply. Our life and home are not the same without our pet’s presence. Often, we have lived with our pet for years and our routine has been shaped by its presence. Pets are a constant and loving companion to families and singles. Loving and loss go hand in hand. This declaration is a list of statements to guide you in your grief.

Companionship. Daily routines. Laughter. Exercise. New friends at the dog park. Living with a purpose. Life with a pet is a source of health and joy for many elders and singles. Cats, dogs, rabbits, horses, and other pets can reduce loneliness and depression, along with easing anxiety. And then all these benefits are gone.

Pet loss is a legitimate and valid cause of grief. If a person has emotionally bonded with a pet or service animal, its death can be comparable to the grief felt with the death of a human loved one. The death can be felt more intensely when the owner has made a decision to end the pet’s life through euthanasia. However, some pet owners may feel unable to express their loss due to social misconceptions surrounding pet death. When the pet owner internalizes this grief, their suffering increases.